others prone to failure this question changed the life of Maxwell maltz initially a famous cosmetic surgeon forever it may seem strange but he found a strong connection between cosmetic surgery and personal development maltz realized that surgery alone didn't always make his patients feel better some people regained confidence quickly after the surgery and thus became more successful in their lives While others didn't see any Improvement at all even though the surgery was successful
this made him understand that how we see ourselves our self-image plays a vital role in building self-confidence it can either bring us down or Lift us up in all fields of Our Lives yes it can even make money a lot of it it's our decision after going deep into psychology and research Dr Maxwell maltz wrote his Masterpiece psycho-cybernetics a new way to get more living out of life the book explains how thinking
of the human mind as a machine can help improve your self-image which will dramatically increase your success and happiness whether you're a 15 year old high schooler who struggles with beating themselves up a 35 year old mother of three who considers herself a failure or someone needing a mental boost and a fresh start this book is for you and watching this video will spare you hours of reading and killing your brain cells
and before we begin smash that like button and subscribe to my channel it helps the YouTube algorithm to push my videos to more people so here we go what Selfimage is your story most importantly is it a happy one or a tragedy are you a winner in it or a loser are you the hero villain or the victim surprisingly it's your choice because you are the writer and the only reader is you
also the way we see ourselves is based on our beliefs which come from our past experiences we don't question these beliefs but instead we constantly act in ways that confirm them whether they're true or false having a positive self-image is the key to living a better life and there are two important discoveries about it one everything we do feel and how we behave depends on our self-image or the story We Tell ourselves
about ourselves two it's possible to change our self-image no matter our age it's never too early or too late to start anew the secret is our self-image should be a realistic reflection of who we truly are neither exaggerating nor underestimating ourselves let me share a relatable Story the author tells about a man who felt insecure about how he looked we've all experienced that feeling at some point right well this man took it
to another level instead of seeing his insecurity as something temporary or not that important he believed that being ugly was just a part of who he was and because he couldn't move past his negative feelings about his appearance he thought that everyone else saw him the same way he saw every interaction and life experience through the lens of people must be judging me because I'm ugly but here's the thing it became a
self-fulfilling prophecy actually most people didn't pay much attention to his looks or consider him ugly but because he expected rejection he was always on edge and not pleasant to be around people responded to his unpleasant Behavior not his looks sadly he didn't realize this important distinction so he kept going through life feeling sad and misunderstood stuck in a never-ending cycle if you believe you're unlucky unlovable or untalented it's important to realize that
these negative beliefs are not true you can break free from them the author suggests that rational thinking has the power to liberate you from negative thoughts the first step is to understand that what you believe about yourself is based on feelings rather than facts for example a fact could be that you asked someone out on a date and they turned you down which made you feel sad but then you might have a
thought or feeling like no one will ever want to go out with me I'm ugly and unlovable the key is to recognize that this second thought is just a feeling not a fact it's temporary and should not define who you are instead accept that it's a passing feeling that doesn't reflect your true identity how to write a better story to challenge and eliminate our beliefs we simply need to ask ourselves some important
questions start by asking why why do we believe that we can't do something then question whether this story We Tell ourselves is based on actual facts or if it's just an assumption or a tragic novel that we were the author of next ask yourself the following is there a logical reason to support this story could it be possible that I'm mistaken in holding on to this belief would I reach the same conclusion
about someone else in a similar situation why should I continue to act and feel as if this story is true if there's no valid reason to believe it always return to the source is this belief rooted in real facts or is it based on assumptions and false conclusions now that we've covered the basics of PsychoCybernetics self-esteem and how it works let's delve into the author's Theory what is psycho-cybernetics simply put psycho-cybernetic sees
the human brain as a computer and self-esteem as its software the term combines psychology the study of the mind with cybernetics the study of machines essentially psycho-cybernetics explores how our minds function like machines according to the author if we can program our thoughts or reset our self-esteem we can create a better and happier life let's take happiness as an example regardless of our differences everyone wants to be happy however we often have
misconceptions about happiness we tend to believe that it's either a constant state of being or a result of specific events for instance we may think that if we achieve a promotion we'll enter a state of everlasting happiness free from worries we assume that more money and career satisfaction will make us happy and if we're happy in every aspect of life we won't feel sad anymore but these beliefs aren't true while certain events
can bring temporary pleasure relying on circumstances for lasting happiness is futile circumstances only offer fleeting cycles of Pleasure and Pain if we chase after one experience after another hoping it will fill the void in our hearts we'll end up in an endless and pointless Loop similarly happiness is a state of mind but it doesn't mean being completely free from sadness or seeking constant Bliss that's unrealistic instead we should understand that happiness is
a choice we can't control external circumstances but we can control our response to them choosing happiness is the most important decision we can make by seeking the positive in every situation finding contentment with what we have and embracing joy we can enhance our quality of life Martz shares a powerful quote about happiness by writing if you are to be happy at all you must be happy period not happy because of what's the
secret to success imagination is a powerful key to achieving success we often underestimate its significance in our lives it influences every action we take our actions and emotions are not determined by sheer willpower but by what we imagine to be true about ourselves and the world around us our mind creates images that shape how we act and feel understanding this gives us the power to change Who We Are why not imagine ourselves
as successful individuals recognizing that our beliefs and images shape our personality provides a valuable tool for psychology to transform ourselves it opens up new possibilities for developing skills achieving success and finding happiness mental pictures give us a chance to practice new behaviors and attitudes that we couldn't otherwise do surprisingly our nervous system can't distinguish between vividly imagined experiences and actual ones so by visualizing ourselves performing in a certain way it's almost like
we are actually doing it mental practice contributes to Improvement and perfection success has been a puzzle we've all wondered about it at some point whether it's acing a test having a successful relationship or thriving in our careers we all want to know how to achieve success we often believe that only certain people have the key to success thinking they are more talented luckier or more likely to get what they want but here's
the truth success is not something that only Success happens to a select few it's a potential that resides within all of us we just need to know how to unlock it that's where the author's acronym success comes in let's explore its meaning the first s stands for sense of direction having a clear sense of purpose is vital because it gives us Direction and meaning in life without a goal to pursue we may
feel lost and purposeless so the first step is to find your sense of direction and let it guide your path the U represents understanding understanding is essential for success as it enables us to connect with others it allows us to empathize see different perspectives and become better communicators Partners employees and Friends understanding also brings personal Clarity and peace of mind misunderstandings often cause Stress and Anxiety so cultivating understanding helps us navigate life
with more Tranquility next is c for courage to succeed in any area we need the courage to make bold decisions and Venture into the unknown the second C stands for charity being charitable means showing kindness and generosity to others it's not just about financial giving but also about being kind giving people the benefit of the doubt volunteering and Performing acts of service that bring joy to others moving on we have e for
esteem as we've learned self-esteem is crucial because it shapes The Narrative we tell ourselves pay attention to your self-esteem and focus on developing a positive inner story that says I can do it now on to the next s which is for self-confidence similar to self-esteem self-confidence is about the story We Tell ourselves you don't need a long history of success to be self-confident it's about recognizing your own power and believing in your
ability to succeed with self-confidence you can say yes I can lastly we have S for self-acceptance this one is significant because many struggle with it self-acceptance allows you to find peace by letting go of the pressure to be perfect embrace your flaws and recognize that everyone has them it's okay to be yourself by incorporating these seven practices into your life you'll be on the path to success with final thoughts imagine your brain
as the most incredible supercomputer ever created it may not work exactly like a digital computer but we can compare it to one to better understand how it operates with this understanding we can make changes to the software of our self-esteem just like reconfiguring a computer program by applying the principles of psycho-cybernetics in our daily lives we have the power to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves boost our self-esteem and discover the secret
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